Who’s really a better role model? The good, wholesome, Christian girl who simply strums her guitar and sings about heartbreak or the wild, inappropriate girl who swings on a wrecking ball naked while singing about heartbreak?
I was talking to a lady a few months back and she couldn’t stop raving about Taylor Swift. In the beginning, I liked T-Swift and hated Miley Cyrus. But over the years, as I have aged and matured, I’ve slowly gained more and more respect for Miley as I slowly lost it for Taylor. True, Miley has gone off the deep end it would seem now and again. But who am I to judge? Don’t we all get a little crazy and a little inappropriate as we struggle through adolescence, out of childhood, and into a world full of people in which it can seem impossible to find a unique identity to call your own? Maybe singing about drugs and parties and swinging around nude on a music video seems like a bit much, but are they really such extreme acts of rebellion and adolescence? Plenty of other young men and women have certainly done better but they’ve also done worse. If anything, Miley’s transition into the adult world was rocky, as all of ours are, but she was candid about it. She has not hid her struggles or her shame in the light of the cameras. She’s cast off posing as a sweet, little country girl and explored everything the world has to offer until she’s truly found who she wants to be.
On the other hand, Taylor continues to be America’s sweetheart. With her blonde hair and blue eyes, her sweet disposition, girly style, and wholesome attitude, she’s the girl parents hope their daughters take after. No crazy hair, no crazy music videos, no wild parties, no drugs, and no growing up into maturity.
Of the two, who has maintained a long-term, serious relationship (almost to the point of marriage)? Of the two, who has been the most honest about the difficulty of growing up and discovering oneself, particularly under the microscope of the media? It’s understandable that parents wouldn’t exactly look forward to a “nude on a wrecking ball licking a hammer” phase, but people shouldn’t take Miley’s actions too literally. Should I have a child, I personally would much rather have a strong, independent young man or woman unafraid to confront his/her struggles head on regardless of the public eye. I would want him/her to find a significant other they can love and to whom he/she can dedicate themselves for the long-term but then live on should it not work out. I would want them to realize that publicly humiliating those they hate won’t do any good except fuel the unnecessary fire.
People often romanticize childhood and innocence, and as great as it is, it’s not the same thing in adulthood. It simply because naivete and an unhealthy barrier to reaching full maturity and self actualization (to use a psychology term).
Taylor has many redeeming qualities, and shes not NOT a good role model for children. But neither is Miley Cyrus.